As shared previously, Gary and I met on Feeld back in July with the direct goal for us to engage in a D/s relationship. I had truly been desiring to explore my submissive side in a safe, sane, consensual way and was thrilled to have manifested my very own Dom!

While I haven’t documented all of our encounters, we have seen each other somewhat consistently since then, each time getting to know each other better and often delving into another aspect of D/s play.

During this time, Viktor had heard a lot about Gary, but it was only a few weeks ago that they had a chance to meet. One Saturday, we had planned to go to the Sex Expo, and since Gary would also be attending, we arranged to meet up for lunch. The day became even more complex once we realized that Justina (Viktor’s girlfriend) would also be there.

So, the first time I met my husband’s girlfriend was while waiting in line to enter the Sex Expo. Perhaps not the most conducive of introductions, but yet perhaps appropriate given our lifestyle. And, adding to the festive nature of the day, Viktor and I met a Dominatrix on the subway on our way to the Expo, who was enamored by us and bought me a cup of coffee.

After walking through the exhibit hall for a bit, Justina, Viktor and I met up with Gary for a lovely lunch at a nearby French bistro. It was a very comfortable meeting among the three of them and I was happy to have Viktor get to know Gary in person.

Post-lunch, Gary headed off to the Expo, while Justina, Viktor and I hailed a cab and returned to our apartment to hang out and chill. Viktor enjoyed repurposing a logo’d paint stick we’d gotten at the Expo as an instrument of torture on Justina as we joked about writing a porn movie featuring a sexy painter – combining the kinks of impact play and sploshing!

At some point during the afternoon, I received a text from Gary noting how much he had enjoyed meeting Justina and Viktor and then, later, sent me a photo of a wrapped package with the hint: You earned it! I wasn’t sure what to expect but was excited at the prospect of receiving a present. The next day I re-read the text exchange and was struck by the thought of what the gift might be. I told Gary that I thought I had figured it out, but we agreed that we would wait until we were together for the reveal. Fortunately, I didn’t have to wait long to find out since our next encounter was less than a week away.

Concurrently, he had provided me with a lengthy laundry list of BDSM options to which I was to mark my interest from 1 (minimal) to 5 (a lot) or N (for Hell No!). This will serve as the basis for more focused, in-depth play that inspires and fuels both of us, based on mutual desires.

The week after the Expo, we met up for lunch and then returned to my apartment. We spent time reviewing the BDSM inventory I had completed and then paused for a few moments. Gary asked me to kneel before him, which I readily did, and, then, instructed me on how to assume a submissive pose (hands facing up, resting on my knees).

He slowly unwrapped the package revealing a beautiful, soft, black leather collar! I was overjoyed at receiving the gift from him and its importance in our relationship. He immediately fastened it around my neck and told me to take off everything but the collar and wait for him in the guest room. Being the good sub, I quickly complied and enjoyed the rest of the afternoon with him, loving our time together and the feel of the leather, snug around my neck.

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While happily married to my soulmate for 20+ years, after years of body shame and sexual shutdown, I am ready to step into my sexual power as we open up our relationship and explore the possibilities.

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