We’ve discussed how “pleasure research” can be super sexy, even the most academic steps. Doing this with partners can also open new lines of communication and bring you closer together. Here are some of our suggestions for bringing this to life.
Your Erotic Blueprint
Miss Jaiya is a sex coach who offers a quiz leading to your Erotic Blueprint which is a great basis for better communication (and better sex!) with your partner.
Mama Gena
Regena Thomashauer (aka Mama Gena) has created the School for Womanly Arts, with programs to help women “reclaim the majesty of the feminine.” She empowers women to live from a place of pleasure and use feminine powers to be stronger in a (currently very) patriarchal society. She is also the author of several recommended books, including Pussy: A Reclamation and Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts.
Layla Martin
Layla Martin is the Creator and Founder of the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality and teaches a range of classes for women, men and couples. We are also huge fans of her amazing videos.
Kasia Urbaniak and The Academy
Bringing together her experience as a professional Dominatrix and practitioner of Taoist alchemy, Kasia founded The Academy to teach women “to increase power, agency and influence in all areas of their lives.”
VIDEO: Kink: Pulling back the curtain on BDSM
This documentary featuring about site Kink.com is both visually stimulating and thought provoking. It is not for the faint of heart as it contains explicit scenes all across the kink spectrum. And while you may not enjoy every scene, and may even find some a turn off, the topic is covered tastefully and you will likely find many things you do like. And, perhaps a few hidden kinks, too!
Crash Restraint
Interested in learning Shibari or other rope tying activities? Crash Restraint is a straightforward, no-frills site offering tons of resources from beginner to expert. The site contains all the resources you need including text instructions, video tutorials, and links to online stores. They even have set curriculum based on your specific goals so you can get there faster.
BOOK: Essence of Shibari: Kinbaku and Japanese Rope Bondage
Are you the type that wants the history and background to go with your hobbies? This is the perfect starter book to learn about the history and background of Shibari, along with some basic techniques.
BOOK: Women’s Anatomy of Arousal
Written by sex educator, Sheri Winston, this is an amazing book that provides an in-depth guide to understanding female anatomy and how to truly harness one’s body, mind and spirit in pursuit of orgasm and pleasure.
BOOK: Extended Massive Orgasm
Authors, Steve and Vera Bodansky, “reveal techniques that everyone can use to give and receive extended massive orgasms.”
BOOK: Sex at Dawn
The authors, Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha “debunk almost everything we “know” about sex, weaving together …evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality to show how far from human nature monogamy really is.”
Sheila Kelley’s S Factor
Actress Sheila Kelley created “a feminine movement practice – a sensuous workout for body and soul that’s intelligently designed to open the female body into her full, free, erotic expression.” Check out the website for classes near you as well as retreats and online courses.
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