Polysaturated (not to be confused with polyunsaturated) isn’t a real word, but here’s a definition I was able to cobble together from Urban Dictionary and my own thoughts:

When a polyamorous person has as many relationships as they think they can handle, or need, at a given time.

Used in a sentence:

“Viktor is feeling polysaturated between Jeannie, Justina, Wyatt, and a few others in his orbit.”

For the record, Urban Dictionary implies that this is the point where there is TOO MUCH, but for me, polysaturated is the point of being perfectly fulfilled.

UPDATE: Poly.Land uses a similar definition to mine, so there’s that!

This feeling of being polysaturated is very new to me and very intense. For the most part, I’m absolutely loving it. But there are times when I feel like I can’t keep my thoughts straight. Last week, when this started to take hold, I was finding it hard to concentrate at work; at least I’ve sorted that out now. And, I guess like anything exciting, it’s distracting for a bit and then it begins to integrate into everyday life.

Here’s the part I’m starting to settle into that I really like… ongoing connections. Until now my encounters, while not entirely of the “one night stand” variety, they have been somewhat fleeting. But once the flirting resulted in a sexual encounter, the most playful portion, the flirting, seemed to dissipate. I guess this doesn’t have to happen, but it seems that it often does. Jeannie has confirmed this as well.

Enjoying of the chase

It’s human nature to enjoy the chase. Yet upon introspection, I think I enjoy it even more than most. The playfulness, the careful choice of words and phrases, the moment I hit send and wonder, “wait, was that too much?!?” This is sexy and passionate to me! Don’t get me wrong, I want sex, too. And I need touch (or at least I really, really crave it.) But if I have to choose sexy flirting, cuddling, kissing OR physical, hot, sexual encounters, I’ll choose the former all day long.

And this is why I’m polysaturated right now. Wyatt and I have a strong physical attraction and desire to have sex, but we’re teasing each other and relishing in the desire that continues to build and burn. And Justina, well, the slow burn we’ve got going is truly beyond my expectations! The playfulness and the connection has really inspired me, and our flirtations are a big part of what is fueling me to push energy out to others, too. This is why I think bring polysaturated is, well, perfect!

One especially sexy note about Justina and all my talk of being sapiosexual… My feelings for her aren’t just sapiosexual. I absolutely have a strong desire to go further with her; to undress her, to touch her, to tease her, to taste her. And while Jeannie hasn’t met her yet, there’s a connection there, too. So much that while Jeannie and I were having sex the other night, she whispered in my ear:

“Picture me making out with Justina, you know you’d love it!”

Well, I nearly exploded in that very moment!

If being polysaturated also means that the various partners in my life can empower each other, I’m that much more satisfied. Here’s to remaining as polysaturated as possible!

* Fun Fact: that’s the Polyamory Pride Flag featured above. I didn’t even know there was such a thing until I stumbled upon it today.


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