Sex and Candy

beauty-candy-close-up-922635.jpgThree weeks to the day of our first meeting, Jay and I had our first intimate encounter. Given the close connection we have had since that initial 5-hour date and his insight from reading this blog, I was very much looking forward to what would happen between us. I was not disappointed.

We met for a lovely dinner in the neighborhood and enjoyed catching up with each other. Earlier in the day, I had texted him that I had chosen to dance to the song Sex & Candy in my S Factor class, since I knew that he had a connection to the song. It was only after I hit send that I realized the double-entendre of my message.

After our meal, we declined to order any cake, but Jay offered me a cannabis edible in the guise of a gummy bear (which I accepted), fulfilling the “candy” portion of the evening. We then headed to my apartment for more “dessert.” I briefly gave him a tour, opened a bottle of wine and then we moved to the guest room, shutting out the dog and the world.

Over the next several hours we proceeded to delight in each other’s bodies through oral and penetrative sex. My body was comfortable and relaxed in his presence as well as very turned on. Later, we held each other and I actually dozed off for awhile – a rare occurrence for me. Energy renewed, we resumed our lovemaking.

Eventually, it was late (3:30 AM) and Jay decided that he should head home, so I kissed him goodbye and reluctantly let him leave.

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While happily married to my soulmate for 20+ years, after years of body shame and sexual shutdown, I am ready to step into my sexual power as we open up our relationship and explore the possibilities.

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