Back to the beach

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It was Labor Day — one last hurrah before the pressures of work and life were permitted to press down on us once again. Well, maybe that’s a bit too dramatic, but we did feel that it would be our last opportunity to head to the beach for the summer. Thus, we were delighted when the day appeared to be a beautiful one, perfect for enjoying the sun and sand. And to muse on the Summer of Sexiness as the (formal) season drew to a close.

I had visited Gunnison Beach, the nude beach at New Jersey’s Sandy Hook, earlier in the summer with a friend and had a really great time. It was a very comfortable vibe, with friendly people and no pressure; simply the joy of being naked. Viktor was eager to experience it for himself, so our beach destination was easy and we got ourselves ready, packing up the car with beach towels, sandwiches and beverages.

On the ride south, Viktor and I spent a lot of time talking about the Summer of Sexiness and how we were feeling about the various encounters that had occurred over the past four months. We also discussed our desires going forward, especially regarding date nights and “sex labs”. We were both very much interested in exploring orgasm and pleasure without the goal of intercourse as a way to heighten our connection and expand our repertoire and made a commitment to each other to make this exploration a priority. It was a very cathartic and healing conversation as we opened up, expressed fears and, most importantly, spoke the truth. In a word, powerful! By the time we arrived in Sandy Hook we felt extremely connected to one another and ready for a fabulous beach day.

We set up our umbrella, beach blanket and towels and settled in for the day. It was hot — heat advisory hot — so we quickly divested of our clothing and hit the waves. It was glorious to float in the water au naturale, enjoying the beauty and each other’s company. After a while we returned to our beach site, where we dried off, ate our lunch and dozed for a bit. Later, we turned our attention to our Kindles, reveling in the chance to sit back, relax and read.

Suddenly, Viktor sat up, put down his book and exclaimed, “Isn’t that Jake and Mia?” I looked over to where he was pointing and saw Mia in the distance. While I had mused that it would be cool to run into them at the beach earlier in the day (we knew that they frequented Gunnison), I hadn’t really considered it to be a likely possibility given that a) we hadn’t been in touch with them in several weeks, b) didn’t know their holiday plans and c) it was a crowded beach! Yet here they were! Viktor quickly ran after them lest we lose them in a sea of umbrellas and beach goers. They were delighted to see us and immediately invited us to come visit with them once they were settled.

It had been awhile since we had seen Jake and Mia, but earlier in the month, Jake had more explicitly expressed his interest in me, confiding that the connection and chemistry that he and I shared was actually quite rare within the swinger lifestyle. It meant a lot to receive these compliments and I shared that I felt blessed to have met him and Mia. I suspect that their coaching and kindness are also quite rare within the community.

Viktor and I enjoyed frolicking on the beach and in the water with them that afternoon, which served as a lovely bookend to our Summer of Sexiness activities. At times Jake was very close to me, holding me close and kissing me. It felt exhilarating and vulnerable since we were naked and in public, but I welcomed the interaction. I’m still not sure that I am a committed swinger, but I do feel committed to Jake and Mia and am so happy to have them in Viktor’s and my life.

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While happily married to my soulmate for 20+ years, after years of body shame and sexual shutdown, I am ready to step into my sexual power as we open up our relationship and explore the possibilities.

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